I hate inauthenticity! I hate all that pretend perfectness that’s shown to the world and now, of course, spread everywhere through social media.
It’s not that I don’t want to read about and see how well people are doing, how happy they are, the success they are creating, it’s just too “perfect” to be all true.
Not that i want to share everything, all the downs and struggles that I experience, all the time, but I do wonder where we’re heading with all this perfectness that I know isn’t life. Life is full of both ups and downs and the way we connect, truly connect, is through all of it, is my belief.
You hear about, mostly younger people, struggling to keep up with these illusions, becoming depressed and doing all kinds of things to try to keep up. You see it all around you.
My recent move back to Sweden is making this even clearer.
Sweden, I thought, was a place that does accept being natural more than the US and now I see all these young people trying to stay wrinkle free (which they already are, is the crazy thing!) ,creating bigger lips, wearing false eye lashes (dressed in sweats!). Searching the image of perfect and perfect at this time in the western world being the so called Hollywood look.
What will we become if we all try to look the same, first of all? How boring would that be!
Who will we be if the only thing we show is a life that’s all roses and champagne? What will we talk about, how will we be with each other?
I have no idea where this is leading or if this is just a phase but I do know that what really makes a difference is your inner self.
That is where happiness resides. That’s where youthfulness is lives. There is where beauty comes from (wrinkles and all).
Because whatever we do, beauty and happiness is created on the inside and if it’s not there it doesn’t matter what you do on the outside, the inauthenticity will shine through.
I know that I always try to be extra alert to where I am lacking in authenticity and see what i will discover, because I know I’m also part of this need for acceptans, from others and from my own judgmental part of myself.
And I will continue to celebrate everyones success and share in their happiness and scroll by those images that don’t feel quite true but instead seem to hide something not wanted to be seen.