Every day I’m reminded of that communication is energy.
A couple of weeks ago I picked up a new family member, a then 8 week old, french bulldogg that I’ve named Winston.
That’s where the reminder comes in. Winston is showing me, every minute of the day (and night) that my energy, my state of mind determines his behavior.
Interesting, challenging and sometimes just plainly irritating. And you might imagine that, when I’m in the irritating state, life at the Forsman home is not that much fun.
Winston is very different than my previous Frenchie, Ghost, who never really chewed on anything and was a very calm and cool little fellow.
Winston on the other hand, not so much! He has energy, curiosity, stubbornness, own will, tenacity and a few more words I can’t think of right now, than Ghost, than Oliver (my boxer), than my imagination and definitely my level of patience.
Day by day though, if I can just keep myself grounded, be aware of my energy, how I feel, where my focus is and then adjust to being calm, relaxed and “in my body”, feeling my feet, Winston’s energy adjusts accordingly.
So instead of seeing Winston as the bad puppy or even excusing his chewing, biting, snapping at you, as normal puppy behavior, I check myself and focus on what I want, how I want him to behave and make sure that I’m breathing calmly, feeling my feet (again), I can steer his behavior towards what I want.
Just so no one is on their way to report me to “the dog abuse bureau”-he has lots of toys, I activate him, , walk him and, of course, kiss and hug him as much as I possibly can.
Dogs, of course, are so sensitive to all energy, around them. That’s in combination with tail wagging, or lack of, growling, barking, etc, is how they communicate with each other, but so are humans.
I believe THAT IS how we communicate, anything else is just words and learned manners. Those can be useful, for sure, but if they don’t mesh with how you feel, the other person will experience the discord, unconsciously mostly, but still there will be an inner sense of something being off.